Conversation wth a young, Native Am. professional male

I recently met this Native male. He is tall, handsome, intelligent, asset to all tribal communities, well known in tribal communities, young (between age of 32-35), and is all about empowering Native people. In other words, he’s awesome and I truly commend him on all the hard work he’s doing on behalf of our tribal people. I respect people like him as an individual and Native brother because it’s rare to meet a Native dude who has their career going on like he does at a young age.

At dinner, I had to ask him his stance on dating/relationships because I rarely get the young, professional, Native male version. He said he “messes” with non-Native females but would never seriously date anyone other than a Native girl and sees himself with a Native girl. *Interesting I thought as I sat there with my dude who is not Native and I wondered what he was thinking as the Native dude spoke and I questioned my relationships as well.

Second night of dinner, I asked the Native dude again about relationships/dating, this time without my dude present but there were other Native females at the table as it was a group dinner. I stated that I’m tired of men (minority, especially Native men) who have done well for themselves but who have this “God’s gift to earth” persona because their one of few Native males who got their shit together. He said “I have the right to be picky”, which is true as anyone does. Also, he said, “I want to meet a Native female who’s educated, can carry an intelligent conversation, likes to travel, and does not exude DRAMA…and you think this would be easy to find but it isn’t..because I travel a lot in my job and I have brought my previous girlfriends along to my travels and when random females come approach me after a presentation I did my previous girlfriends start to get mad and say ‘oh this what happens all the time you travel?’…so many Native females have been affected by domestic violence that they are messed up…from growing up to especially their ex-boyfriends who verbally/physically abused them that they have a lot of baggage, which is drama…and I do not put up with drama and I am not the male to do this to any female but I have to say I did not put you through all the crap you have been through..,so as soon as they start acting in this manner I start to run the other way.”

Wow…I thought! This is true! Were always pointing the finger at males it seems. I never heard this from a Native male before, especially an accomplished one. Maybe us Native females (as stated previously in another blog) are way too jaded due to our past experiences with bullcrap men that we all categorize them in the same space. Ladies, what do you think???!