Settling?
My words and feelings stem from my personal thought processes/experiences,
but have been stimulated by other like-minded females. What is your list? For a
man to be educated, financially stable, never married, no kids, tall, fine,
good credit, adaptable, dresses nice, respectable, does not cheat or lie, and
adores you? Yeah-yeah ladies join the line! Ok, so what if a man lacks some of
these qualities but upholds most of them? For example, I once dated a man who
was cool on the basic standpoint on where he was loyal, faithful, did not lie,
and was respectful but at the time did not hold a job; therefore, was not
financially stable with not so good credit. Hmm..then my questions arose, what
is more important? What are my deal breakers? What if I did have a dude who was
educated with mad money but he cheated on me (because ladies in my opinion the
percentages are higher with those credentials with proven examples!). Okay, so
what if you have good man who respects you, treats you good, compatible, will
not cheat, does not abuse you in anyways BUT has some financial faults. I guess
it depends on the female. It depends on how you grew up and your environment.
Do you leave the man that treats you good and you are compatible with who does
lack some traits you seek? If you don’t leave, is that settling? OR what if you
do leave and the next dude cheats/lies to you but buys you everything your
heart desire? It’s a tricky position! I am speaking from my stance, from a
person who only dates minority men (primarily Black or Native men), so the pool
I choose from will be much smaller from my peers who are dating other races. So
the question is from a single, independent, native, professional…when do you
know your settling or when do you know you found a good man? Money is not
everything, but finances are important! Same thing with other examples in a
relationship but I am using my OWN. I know there are other variables and other
deal breakers. What’s your story?????!
