Saturday, April 30, 2011

Men Experiment

I just have to state my experiment because it will make you think. About 3 years ago a long lost friend was telling me about this guy she was talking to and the things he would say to her. I told her that he was intimidated by her “success” because she is educated, self-sufficient and a single female with no kids. She came to Vegas to visit me for the weekend so we were on our way to Tao nightclub. At that point, I told her let me show you something to prove my point. I told her the next guy that approaches me and to tries to holla that I am going to tell him I am a doctor (LOL). But, I told her to watch and see his reaction. About five minutes later, this AA guy approaches me and we start talking. He asks me “Where do you live?” I said “I live here.” Then he asks, “What do you do?” I looked at my friend and I stated “I’m a doctor” (with a grin on my face). Then he said “Really? What kind of doctor?” I stated “A primary care physician.” This guy just turned around and walked off without saying a word! LOL My friend was in disbelief and I told her “See, I told you.” Now fast forward to a few weeks ago. I was at a girlfriend’s birthday gathering at the Blue Martini. A lot of my girls friends were married and older, so they not really looking to meet guys of course. However, one of my girls married friends kept trying to push me to leave the table to go talk to a guy. (LOL) I kept saying “Naw I’m good girl, I’m taking a hiatus from them for now.” She kept asking “Why?” I said let me just show you. I told her to follow me, follow my lead, and that I am just going to talk to random guys. So we went out into the “manfield” (LOL)! I started talking to guy #1 (tall, AA, late 20’s or early 30’s) and he was into the conversation and asked if I wanted a drink, which I didn’t respond to. So my friend asked the guys, “So what do you do?” He said, “I work for a rental car company.” Then he turns and asks me, “What do you do?” I said, “I’m a professor at UNLV.” He looked at me, then looked at his friend, then said to his friend “I’m gonna go back to our table” and bounced. I started laughing because I knew this was gonna happen and my friend looked at me like WTH just happened? I told her that this happens frequently and I think it’s hilarious. She didn’t quite believe me at that point so I said oh let’s go talk to those guys over there. I initiated a conversation with guy #2 (tall, latino, mid-20’s) and we were having a good conversation for about 5 minutes. Then the question comes up “What do you do?” I smiled, looked at my friend, and proceeded to say “I’m a professor at UNLV.” Then he says “Oh…well I’m just a sales guy.” I say, “That’s cool” but I already know by the way his reaction was that he’s uncomfortable. Now the awkward and weird silence over burdens us. So I politely say “It was nice meeting you” and walk off. My girl follows and was like OMG! I say “Now you know why I’m cool and I am in a hiatus for a while?” So, the next day I tell one my girls what had happened and she said “Yeah, I don’t like to bring that up when I first meet a guy.” I think that’s a cool strategy and I utilize that strategy sometimes. However, I feel like if a guy gets intimidated the first 5 minutes into a conversation, then he will probably be intimidated throughout the possible “dating relationship”! Of course I do not think ALL men are like this but I say about 85% of them are. Ladies and gentleman what do you think??????!!!!!!!!!!!!

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