Discussion with your partners about HIV & STIs

I’ve met a lot of people who stated they don’t think about having an initial discussion about sexually transmitted infections and HIV/AIDS when they engage in sexual relationships or when they begin a relationship. A lot of people may think it’s hard to bring up THAT discussion because of the “uncomfortableness.” I mean what do you ask and how do you ask it? Do you ask questions like: How many partners have you had? Have you ever been tested? If so, when? If not, will you? Most Native people seem to be a bit shyer than others about certain things, especially talking about sex because of the taboo in our community. Also, the women are more assertive and men are less assertive. In light of today being National Women & Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, I encourage my ladies to take charge of your own bodies and your own sexual relationships. First, I encourage you to get tested! I know this may be scary but it’s always good to know your health status. Second, I encourage you to go buy condoms! Even if you’re not going to engage in sexual activity, but there will be a time when you do, so even if you’re currently not engaging in sex, go through the experience of buying condoms. Because I know most women feel this is a “man’s” job to do so and depend on the “man” to have condoms. Why can’t “we” carry our own condoms around and know we are equipped. Let’s get comfortable with us going into the store and buying condoms and have them. I feel this gives us self-responsibility and self-empowerment to know, regardless, we are safe. Third, have a discussion with your partner or future partner about getting tested. Personally, this is a requirement for me, for my significant other to get tested before any sexual activity transpires between us. I work in the trenches of sexual health and believe me, if you knew what I know, you would require everyone to get tested too. Since I work in the field, it’s a lot easier for me to have these discussions and make my significant other get tested if they want to be with me. If you’re not ready to have this discussion but you want to engage in sexual activity, then simply have him strap it up EVERY time or use a dental dam  (female oral sex protector) if your with a female, and no unprotected oral sex to ensure you are being the safest you can. If you want to have a discussion with your partner but you’re not sure how or what to say, follow this script below:

US: I really like you and I am interested in taking our relationship further, but I would like us to get tested before we do. I don’t feel comfortable us engaging in sexual activity if we don’t know each other’s status. (But make sure you go together, hear your results together, OR you see his paperwork with his name on it. Don’t get his/her word only. You need evidence!!)

If your significant other doesn’t agree or doesn’t want to, you can’t MAKE them. But, to me that’s always been a red flag because they either have something to hide, or they don’t respect themselves or you enough to get tested. SO, I say keep it movin’! OR you can ensure that you both use protection in all sexual acts every time as the other option. However, that may be a risk because the more you engage in sexual activity with that person, the more apt you may be likely tobecome more comfortable and let your guard down after time passes. I encourage all my Native gals to take a stance and become responsible for and with our bodies! We are strong women and state our mind in all arenas in our life, why can’t we include it in our sexual life???!!!!!!!!  

Healthy Conflicts (Navajo teaching/story)

So, this has kind of been my theme over the past couple of weeks, “Healthy Conflict.” For one part of my dissertation project I adapted an HIV, sexually transmitted infections, and teen pregnancy prevention curriculum so it is culturally appropriate for Native youth and I touched on healthy conflicts within relationships. I told my Native teens that when you put two different people together, there’s bound to be conflict, and conflict is healthy because it’s a natural process of being in a relationship. Every relationship is bound to come across some type of conflict, whether it’s friendships, family, or intimate relationships! I incorporated this Navajo story within my adapted curriculum to help teach them in a culturally appropriate demeanor that within our culture, there are teachings about “healthy conflicts.”

 [Navajo Tribe]

Monster Slayer (The Twin Brother of Born-for-Water, sons of Changing Woman and the Sun), made preparation for the inhabitants of this earth. He killed all the monsters, everything that would prey on the people. When he thought he had got rid of all the monsters that would be deadly to the people, that would devour the people, he thought he had finished his role and he was coming back to his home on that little mesa that is the cradle of our origin.

 Then he met someone and asked him, “I thought I killed all the enemies of the people. Are you still alive, or where did I dodge you?” then he found out this was Poverty. “No, grandchild, I don’t want to be killed,” Said Poverty. “If you kill me, then it will be the end of humanity, because you will have no knowledge of the needs, the necessity of one another, and the urge to do things for yourself and others. I should be here, and it will help you to develop compassion for one another. There will be need, there will be necessity, there will be the urgency to do things for yourself and for those around you because you are a human and you have certain needs. Your moccasins will wear away and there is a necessity that you get new moccasins. It develops your mind that you have to acquire and look for those things you need and others need. If you kill me, you will be like the rest of the animal world, without compassion for your fellow man and concern for yourself. You, as a human, should retain me. But I’m not the only one. There are four of us all in this category.” The first one that he met, he didn’t kill-he didn’t kill Poverty. He didn’t kill the need. He saw that man needed poverty to be humble and to be concerned with the needs of others as well as himself.

 He met another one-as the first one stated, there were four of them. He met the second person, The Sun God boy says, “I thought I killed all the monsters that would be killing the humanity on this earth, but I notice that you’re still alive.” The answer came that he didn’t want to be killed because “I have a definite purpose to live and to stay with you.” He found that it was Hunger. “Because I must have a place in your life to bother your stomach. When your stomach becomes empty, you will feel that you’re hungry and you will think, develop your mind about how to get food. You will become industrious and stop being lazy. You will go out and look for game or into the fields to get the crop. I have a definite purpose to live with your people. Without me, you will be lazy and couldn’t develop the qualities of mind and strength you should have for the world.” So that’s the second person he let go. Hunger was not killed. The Spirit of Hunger was not destroyed. It was left purposely to remain with us to make us work.

 Then he went ahead and he met the third person. He asked him the same question. “I thought I had killed all the enemies of humanity. Are you still around here? How was it I missed you?” He found that it was fatigue. Every night we should go to sleep. It’s a must if we are not to forget the world of the spirit. We have to have the sleep to be in good health. “If you kill me,” said Fatigue, “You will never rest. You have to have your sleep each night to replenish both your physical and spiritual strength. Without sleep man would forget the spirit and be aware of only the physical world. If you kill me, that will be the end. Your eyes will dry up. You won’t get the necessary rest to continue your life.” So he didn’t kill him. He let him abide with humanity. But there is an extreme to that thing, too. If you do nothing but sleep and sleep, you’ll die of poverty. You’ll be lazy and die of want. It is part of the life necessity to sleep, but if you continue to do nothing but sleep, you’ll fall into the hands of hunger which forces you to work. He let Fatigue go because it was necessary that he be retained as a help to humanity.

 He went on again and met the fourth person. He told him the same thing, “I thought I had killed all the enemies of humanity, and here you are. “You’re still alive.” He found it was Body Lice. He wanted to kill him, but the Body Lice also has a purpose. Without lice, people wouldn’t bother to keep clean. When people come together to come each other’s hair, it’s kind of a leisure period for them. Those periods, they’ll be talking about something that happened with the community. It serves a purpose that they have the time to visit. Body Lice forces people to make an effort to keep clean and to be sociable. So he wasn’t killed either. Body Lice he let go, to abide with humanity. Four of those, as a group, were given freedom to operate in their sphere. By viewing this legend, we know that it definitely has purpose. It is a problem-how to combat the needs in a person’s life, how to think of others, what to wear, what to eat. Is he tired? Does he need that rest? Does he need that cleanliness? To my knowledge, it is those things that are an aid to humans to force us to think, to act. I think it was well that they were spared otherwise our efforts for the needs of the human race would have dried up. –Navajo

 The point of this blog is to state that EVERY relationship will encounter conflicts and it’s how you deal with them that can make or break the relationship. Our conflicts are needed for us to grow and evolve individually and in the relationship as a couple. There is a balance to everything!!

 

50 Shades of OH HELL NO!

First off, let me start by saying “OHHHHHH HELL NO.” I know this is just a movie. I know it’s for entertainment. But, I would like to put in my two cents about this and probably turning it into a much deeper issue at hand being that this movie is for entertainment purposes. I know a lot of you ladies out there enjoyed it and so did I.

However, I had a few personal analytic points from a Native female perspective (my own). As I was sitting there and seeing Ana (female character) in movie being told what to do, get tied up, and spanked, it rubbed me the wrong way because I thought, “What if that was me?” “Would I ever do something like that and enjoy it?” And my answer was “OHHHHHHH HELL NO.” It’s not because I am judging someone else’s sexual preferences and everyone has their own practices, which I respect. But the male character was a White male and as I was thinking while watching the movie, “What if that was me?” So, in essence, I pictured of I could let a White male treat me like that? OHHHHHH HELL NO. It goes back down to historical oppression of Native peoples. White men used to “torture” us Native females back in the day and why would I think in any shape or form for that to be a turn-on, especially from a White male to a Native female? And then I thought, “What if it was from a minority man?” And my answer remained “OHHHHHHHH HELL NO.” Because coming from my community, there is an extremely high rate of domestic violence. Therefore, I still couldn’t understand how being dominated and tortured would be any different from the harsh negative realities that plague my tribal communities. Below are some statistical rates to give you a picture of violence that occurs among Native women.

 Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence/Physical Assault from

https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/userfiles/file/Violence%20Against%20AI%20AN%20Women%20Fact%20Sheet.pdf

-American Indian women residing on Indian reservations suffer domestic violence and physical assault at rates far exceeding women of other ethnicities. In 2004 Department of Justice report estimates these assault rates to be as much as 50% higher than the next most victimized demographic.
-National annual incidence rates and lifetime prevalence rates for physical assaults are also higher for American Indian and Alaskan Native women compared to other women.
-In a 2008 CDC study, 39% of Native women surveyed identified as victims of intimate partner violence in their lifetime, a rate higher than any other race or ethnicity surveyed.
-According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs at least 70% of the violent victimizations experienced by American Indians are committed by persons not of the same race— a substantially higher rate of interracial violence than experienced by white or black victims
Also, as a personal trait of mine, I don’t like being dominated by men or anyone in general. It would hard for ME to be spoken to in such demeanor, nonetheless, would want to be tied-up, gagged, etc.  However, working in the sexual health field, I know people have their own preferences and that’s cool. To each their own.

Sexual Karma

It is no secret I like to talk about SEX! I work as a sexpert (sexual health educator) and I do research on sex! Not to mention I give seminars or could give seminars on how to give good oral sex to a man and what are the best sexual positions based on science! These are based on basic anatomy/physiology of males/females. I taught a sexual health class at UNLV and the curriculum I was teaching out of talked of everything from the anatomy/physiology of males/females-to-acts of sex-to-social aspects of sex. It may be weird, especially for a Navajo woman to be talking about such things because we are deemed as “shy,” and these things are not talked about in our community. But as I tell everyone, what’s the big deal, everyone has sex, it’s normal, it’s natural, and it’s a part of life.

 But, there’s a lot that comes with the act of sex as well. It comes with a lot of consequences (good/bad) and responsibility (or lack of). I read this piece and found it interesting. I would like to share it:

A woman isn't mentally or emotionally designed to have multiple sexual partners.

When a woman has sex with a guy, the act of him entering her allows his life force and energy to enter her as well. That man’s life force and energy then becomes a part of that woman’s emotional and mental character. The more of a man’s life force she takes inside of her, the more like that man she becomes. She starts to take on his ideological outlook on life, and begins to reflect the essence of who that man is. That’s why you can always tell when a woman has been with low caliber men. She’ll take on the persona and low level of energy of those men she's been with. A woman by divine design becomes a reflection of her man. Whoever is sexing her on the regular, that's the person's mindset and ideology she’ll eventually become most aligned with. And when she has multiple sex partners, she has multiple competing spiritual forces fighting inside her soul for the dominant position within her life. This duality within her ultimately leads to confusion. I know some of you ladies think you can do what men do, but you have to get on your grown woman game and think like an adult. It’s time out for thinking and acting like irresponsible teenagers. You can’t do what we do. And we can’t do what you all do. Our bodies and minds were designed differently to fulfill God’s greater purpose. This doesn't excuse men either for having loose sexual behavior. The bible makes it clear (and science corroborates) that when a man and woman join together as one: they become ONE flesh. Think about that fellas: how many women have you become one with in your lifetime? It's a scary thought, especially when you consider all the spiritual fall-out that can happen from allowing the energy of different women to join up with yours. Some of you right now can't seem to get your life on track, and you can't figure out why. You have strange pains in your body, or trouble holding down a job. You no longer sleep well at night. Your business has suddenly stagnated. Or maybe your finances never come together the way you need them to. It's because of those unbroken ties with females from your past. Some of those women you had the pleasure of banging were filled with demons: and because of that sexual act now those demons have permission to torment your life too. Sex is a very real, very serious act of sharing power. And we shouldn't treat it like kids playing with matches and gasoline.

So ladies, it’s time to stop lying to yourself about women being 'playas' like men. The only one who ends up being played in the end is YOU. And fellas: it's time to treat sex like it's more serious and precious than life or death itself. Because for many of you: it really is. Many a man is suffering the torments of hell this very moment, all because he refused to gain control over his penis when he had the chance to. Now his lust has become his eternal torment. If you don't control your penis, some woman (and the demons working through her) will destroy you THROUGH your penis. I advocate a strong healthy regimen of disciplining one's life by the teachings of Jesus Christ found in holy scripture. Not to be religious: but because IT WORKS!

The very thing many of you are running from or avoiding entirely is the very thing you need most to get your life on the right track. Stop running and give God a chance. And watch your life transform in ways you never thought possible. –Mack Major

 This Mack Major guy has so many valid points in his message. When you engage in sexual acts with another, you become united in a sacred way and exchange energy that is sacred. Therefore, I advocate for sexual responsibility. My logo for my Native youth program states, “Responsibility is Sacred.”  Also, women are the receivers and men are the givers, so us Native women have to think about these things at times. And if you don’t know that person well, he/she may have characteristics and do things that are immoral and he/she may give you that “bad” energy. In essence, there is sexual karma!! So be careful who you lay down with my friends. Sex is sacred.

Sloppy Seconds

I met a guy around the time I first moved here to Vegas. He originally lived in the east coast but would come to Vegas for work frequently for months at a time. He was tall, dark, handsome, polite, educated, well-dress/groomed, and had a very good job. We would go out on dates and hang-out. He wanted more but I just wasn’t ready but I enjoyed his company nonetheless. But, every time he came back to Vegas for work, we would always meet up and kick it. He told me he was divorced and had a daughter. At one point I thought I should give this dude a real chance.

 

THEN, I got a phone call and it was this dudes WIFE. Like, he was full-on married! However, even if the case were if a man was separated, going through a divorce, etc..he was still MARRIED at the end of the day. I talked to his wife, didn’t rat him out, but assured nothing was going on between us because although we kicked it, nothing serious was happening.  I immediately texted the dude and told him he was the scum of the earth, he’s a liar, I feel bad for his wife, and to never-ever..ever-ever-ever contact me again because he disgusted me!!!! He left me alone for about 3 months and then he texted me again saying I was the most amazing woman he ever met and he still wanted to be a part of my life. I looked at my phone and thought “BYE FELCIA.” I never responded.

 

I don’t know if it’s just me or I presume to be judgmental but why would I want another woman’s man?! Ewww. I’d rather be single. I don’t want to be your “sloppy seconds.”  Also, I have been cheated on before and that sucks. I wouldn’t want to partake in any type of situation where someone may get hurt because it happened to me before. I understood that prior to me knowing he was married was not my fault because I had no idea. But, after that phone call, after me finding out he was married, it become my responsibility to walk away, because he obviously wasn’t responsible/respectful enough to make that decision. But I was.

 

I don’t understand women who WANT to date/talk to/mess around with men who are in a relationship (married or not) when they know he is. Don’t worry ladies, I am not forgetting about who the REAL asshole is in this situation, it definitely is the man in the relationship, and I didn’t forget that. But, as females aren’t’ we enabling him to treat other women like this if we know he’s in a relationship but still continue to date/talk/mess around with? Where is our self-esteem to know we can find a man who is not taken? Where is our self-confidence to know we deserve better? Where is our self-respect as Native women, to know this is wrong? Where is our dignity? I mean are we sometimes that desperate to need attention that bad that we feel we can ‘borrow’ it for the time being?

 

Not to mention, if he leaves her to be with you, would you trust him? Because if he cheated on his ex with you, who’s to say he wouldn’t cheat on you with another girl? The relationship already started off with bad energy, lies, deceit, and disrespect.

Awareness

I have been in contact recently with a few relatives/friends who are enduring break-ups. I refer them back to my previous post to read a great perspective on “love lost.” However, from my end, I reflect back on my life and my “single-ness” I’ve had over this past ~1.5 years since my last break-up. There were times where I felt lonely and somber and missed being in a relationship. There were times I missed my ex, but not in the context of the “relationship” aspect, but more of the “friendship” aspect I realized later. Reflecting back I am so happy that both my ex and I got out of an unhealthy relationship because neither of us was truly happy. He deserves to be happy and so do I. Because that’s what life is supposed to be about, you’re supposed to be happy more than sad/disappointed/stress/miserable. So when we find ourselves in situations that harbor more negative feelings than positive ones, then it’s time for us to re-evaluate the situation and find the strength somewhere to leave it. It’s not always going to be easy and it’s not always going to be what we want, but sometimes we have to look way deeper inside and decide what is best for MYSELF.

 As Natives, when we reflect back into ceremonies, especially puberty/initiation ceremonies, which are arranged at a point in a young man/woman’s life to teach them about responsibility. The elders lecture the young men and women about certain aspects of their future responsibilities; responsibility to self, family, and community. But, most importantly our teachings talk about our responsibility to ourselves. At the same time, the entire growing up of the child has been a learning experience, a lesson in responsibility. Because in the end, you are alone-that is, you have to make decisions for yourself, decisions that will affect yourself, family, community and the natural world. Therefore, personal awareness is at the heart of responsibility: to be aware of what is going on around you and what life holds in store for you-all of life’s possibilities throughout your life to old age. This is a Native way of teaching. Let me repeat, personal awareness is at the heart of responsibility: to be aware of what is going on around you and what life holds in store for you, all of life’s possibilities throughout your life. This is a powerful statement and a teaching from the Luiseno tribe. We all have to be personally aware of our surroundings, not just physical, but emotional/mental/spiritual as well. Are we in spaces and places internally, as well as externally, that are healthy? If not, what can I do to change it? How can I bring back that harmony to my spirit, mind, heart, and body?

 As for me, I left a relationship or the relationship left me. Either way…it ended. Currently, I un-expectantly met a man who treats me with respect, honesty, and love. I exude positive and healthy feelings from him, and in return, I am aware WE are mutually in a healthy and loving relationship. This is something I’ve never been in before, a healthy relationship. There are; no games (never have, even since Day 1), no questions, no curiosity, no lies, no cheating, no verbal/mental/physical abuse, no taking advantage, no blaming. I am in awe of such an amazing man that came into my life and made me believe that good men exist and healthy relationships exist. I am happy.

-Crystal Lee

Lingering Break-Ups and Moving On

Have you ever been in a relationship that your heart was not ready to let go? However, logically speaking your mind knew that the relationship was not uplifting you in any capacity but rather debilitating? You know you should let go and move on, you know it! But, somewhere you’re still holding on emotionally and mentally, maybe even physically. I just had an epiphany yesterday that this is me. I’m still trying to get over a relationship and I believe I hid my feelings under a rug or keep trying to bury it in a shallow space that keeps re-surfacing. I go in roller coaster cycles, sometimes I’m doing great and sometimes I realize I’m in a funk. But what’s keeping me in this space? I forget not to be so hard on myself sometimes because I guess this is part of the healing process. I have to believe that time will heal all my lingering emotions and wounds. I have to believe that one day all this will leave my inner space and because I’ve been through break-ups before, I know it will. I came across a piece that stated it best about relationships ending and it’s beautiful so please read below:

 

“The last words we speak to a loved one can color a whole relationship, leaving a sour taste in ones mouth where there could have been only love... even when we close a relationship, if we can close it with love, we can acknowledge the gifts we received, the experience we gained, allowing for the healing process to begin and quicker resolution for all involved...

 

 In the accelerated consciousness so many of us move quickly through relationships, so its important for us to understand the nature of closure from a spiritual perspective. As the lessons are learned and the karma cleared, many Souls choose to part company and move on to another chapter. This has nothing to do with failure, or with one person or the other being the bad guy, even if the universe may choose to assist us in moving forward by creating some drama or event. The event is often just a cue that the time has come to pack ones bags and move onto a new level of learning, alone or with another Soul.

 

 Relationships end for all sorts of reasons but often they end because we have been successful in learning what our two Souls came together to learn. Closing relationships with love, with honor for all that was gained, is therefore a wonderful way to acknowledge the gift of the completed relationship at the Soul level. It allows us karmic completion, the gift of an open heart and the readiness for what lies ahead. As we respect each other Soul to Soul, as we see each other from the Soul level, we can acknowledge the blessings, and move on.

 

 This does not mean that there are not tears or grieving. At a very human level, we grieve the companions that we leave behind on the road. Every time there is a separation, at a very human level there is grief, because on this plane, we long for the eternal closeness that we have as Souls. Because at the Soul level, nothing ever ends and our love is eternal and something in us feels cheated by the temporary separation of the earthly realms, as we are called to sever ties and move on.

 

 And then there is the tender inner child. Inner children do not understand the need to move on. They bond and want to keep the bond. And if our inner children have suffered the pain of separation from their parents, and carry abandonment wounds or rejection/neglect wounds from childhood, these separations can become very painful indeed. It is at these times that we are called to do deep inner work. It is at these times that we have the opportunity and the need to reach for the wounds within and heal all that is hurting inside. So that we may finally heal the old and close old chapters of hurt for good.

 

 Ironically this may be the very gift endings, even the bad ones. As every unhealed wound we carry inside is a blockage to the love that we can feel, can express and can give in our completeness. Every wound that we carry is a barrier to the expansion of the heart chakra into all that it can be. So a broken heart can indeed break us open, if we refuse to wall up, but dare instead to embrace the intensity of the pain. If we dare to not defend our heart, but rather open it so we may feel all of it, the old and the new pain, and cry until we are cleansed to the core.

 

 And sometimes endings are not really endings, but pauses, during which we part for a while to learn more about ourselves, carry out more of our mission, develop individually what we can’t develop together. At other times endings wind down slowly, usually when the lesson is not quite complete and some karma still remains to be cleared. At other times yet, the ending has occurred, but still much processing happens, months after the fact, as we integrate all that was learned or meditate on what went wrong. In the latter case, what we are doing is healing and taking stock. Something inside really got stirred up by the experience with this other and some time is needed to make sense of it all and patch up all the pieces torn asunder, so we may get clearer about who we are, what we need, and evolve into a different stage of life, often by pointing the arrow of our intention in a new direction.

 

 Relationships for many is how we evolve. We bond, we love, we exchange reflections with another, we discover about ourselves. In the initial phases of life, relationships are almost always exercises in inner child healing and karma balancing. But as we evolve, they become the pathway through which we get to see and reclaim parts of our Soul. And if it is in our contact to be with another so called Soul mate, we eventually get to travel in balance for a while, deepening the extent to which we can love. Opening further and further, daring to get more and more vulnerable, so that the light of the divine can shine through our transparent hearts in a sacred union with another.

 

 But even in this instance, sometimes the chapters of love are more than one. Just because we had a soul mate and completed with that Soul, this does not mean that we will not have another and experience Soul Love again. As in truth at the Soul level, we are all one, all a reflection of another. There are so many ways in which we can experience Soul level love. So many Souls with which to create infinite symphonies of love and with whom to bond.So many variation of expression as no two Souls are the same and the blending potential is infinite in its promise. Know that there is never a separation between Souls that does not happen by Soul agreement. If your relationship has completed, allow for the grieving to occur, but do not mistrust the rightness of what is occurring and do not feel that doors are closing in unfair ways. If the door has closed, it’s for the highest good that it has. And a new door will open when enough healing has occurred for it to be the right time.

 

 If you are grieving the departure of a loved one, ask for the love of the divine and cosmic realms to come and patch up your heart and inner child so you may expand and eventually love more. If you are angry about the unfairness or betrayal of another, ask for healing and work towards accepting what is and moving on. How others treat you is their karma, but how we react is ours. Strive to find peace and acceptance and eventually forgiveness for what has occurred. Remember that even when communication breaks down, it is always possible to heal relationships at the Soul level, by talking Soul to Soul. Intend for the healing to occur and it will. Aim towards harboring no resentment, after the initial natural anger has passed.

 

 But most of all treat yourself gently during this phase. Give yourself the love the Earth plane is temporarily denying you and treat yourself with tenderness and compassion. Take whatever time you need to grieve and heal. As you up yourself love and hug your inner child in this way, your love attracting potential will increase, bringing to you someone that loves you just as you are, with all your vulnerabilities, just as you now love yourself. It is something to look forward to indeed.

 

 May you be cleansed, healed and transformed by your endings. May your heart grow larger and more beautiful.  May your Soul grow wiser and more forgiving. May your self love and self acceptance grow supreme. And may you soon be ready to love again, with even more wisdom and passion, knowing that shedding people and skins is a very natural consequence of a fast evolving path.

 

 May you thrive in beauty.

 

 Namaste.”

 

(http://cosmicperspectives.blogspot.com/2010/07/soul-relationships-endings.html)