Chameleon

I once heard a female state when asked a question: What are one of the traits you want in male? She stated, “I want someone like a chameleon and can adapt to any environment.” I LOVED this answer and could not have said it better myself. I feel I have so many different facets of myself, therefore, need a man who is adaptable just like me!

First, I am a REZ girl and a traditional Navajo woman. I participate in ceremonies, use the outhouse (no plumbing at grandmas), help shear sheep (if I come home around that time), and do REZ things when I’m home. You cannot be lazy or boozhy to be a REZ person because believe me the REZ does not have a lot of amenities in the environmental structure that mainstream societies have. Some places have no running water, no electricity, or no cell phone reception lol. Also, I love sports! I like to go hoop when I have time and kick it with a bunch of dudes and talk shit about sports! I played basketball all my life so I feel “at home” around sports functions. I feel comfortable in “the hood” areas. I get along with all walks of life and I am not intimidated or feel uncomfortable, in fact, being in “the hood” area reminds me a lot of home sometimes due to; lots of brown people around, low socioeconomic status, and just how people clown/talk shit. With minority people we have this innate common understanding and we connect. As Natvies we communicate by; teasing, talking shit, and joking consistently! Of course, I am in the professional world a lot. As a Ph.D student, I am around a lot of scholarly folk and can talk their talk. Also, I work in a lot of professional arenas, such as the White House, United Nations, etc… and I have a professional element I do possess (obviously). Nevertheless, I feel comfortable in any/every environment because I can hold my own in every environment. I do not get intimidated and I get along with people from all walks of life. I am NOT shy. But, in each environment I am still ME. The only two things that I do change are of course my dress attire (sneaks and rugged clothes on Rez; hat and timbs/sneaks in “the hood”; professional clothes in professional environments). The other thing I may change is what I talk about. I will not talk about statistical facts in “the hood” or on “the rez” and I do not talk wretched in professional environments (I have to pull out my distinguished vocabulary at times even lol). In all these situations I am comfortable in my own skin.

I have been told I am a “chameleon” and am very adaptable to any environment. For instance, I have a lot of Native homes in NYC and they said they do not like kickin’ it with the Native students who attend NYU or Columbia because they are so “boozhy”. They told me, “we know your smart and doing your thing but you don’t act stuck-up, you just cool to kick it with”. At the end of the day I am a REZ girl and I do act as such, I dislike it a lot when Natives who leave the REZ and doing great things act “stuck-up” or “boozhy”. My pet peeve. Going to school to become Dr. Lee is something I do and I like it but it does not define my personality. Therefore, I need a man who can reflect me on these levels. I cannot date a man who only feels comfortable in “the hood” or “the Rez” environments and feel uncomfortable in the professional environments, or vice versa. If I take my dude anywhere I want to feel comfortable that he can talk to people without me holding his hand and to hold is own. Ladies, do you feel me! Now that is a turn-on.