"Marrying the Game"

Last night me and my boyfriend were watching the reality TV show called, “Marrying the Game”, which is about the relationship of a famous rapper called “The Game” and his fiancée’ whom is a teacher. They were engaged and about to get married but it did not happen because the female felt he needed to make some changes before he became a husband. The male felt she will never be satisfied. So, she ended up moving out and they are still engaged but living separately trying to work on their relationship. Last night, she gave his ring back to him stating that it’s not like she will never marry him, but for him to hold onto the ring until they get back to that place their relationship was in when he asked her to marry him. I thought “Good for her!” But on the show she talked to an elder female who told her that her husband messed up when they were young and that you want him to act like a husband when your not even married, so you have to take a leap of faith that he will become the man you want AFTER you marry him. I totally disagree with that. Shouldn’t you marry the person he is and not the person you hope for him to be? I mean, me and my boyfriend had a small debate about it and he agreed wholeheartedly with the elder that basically said, marry him even though he isn’t the man you want him to be. It’s like saying go ahead and marry that – crack head-; -cheater-, or whatever and after you marry him, then have faith that they will change. My thing is if you love someone and you are committed to that person, regardless of marriage, then you should do everything you can to make your partner feel happy, safe, and secure in the relationship!