Self-Growth

This note/blog is an extension of my previous one, which was “Self-Analyze..Looking at the Mirror Within.” I have heard and experienced a consistent theme recently about personal imperfections. Through these past couple of weeks, I have learned how important my personal behavior is a reflection of my personal relationships and how it affects my relational dynamics. When I speak of relationships, I am talking about friendships, family, and romantic.

I had someone I was dating tell me all my flaws and negative attributes as a “girlfriend” that rolls over into my relationships. I had to sit back and truly think about what he said. Was he right? That was my biggest question. I had to internalize and put a lot of thought into all of my previous relationships and take what he said to see if there was a pattern, even if it was a small one. I have to admit, that was hard to hear. After self-reflection it was harder to think he does have a point. He was of course talking about romantic relationships, but I tend to think it affects my friendships and familial ones as well. Maybe not to the extreme, but still does.

This note/blog is not geared towards men specifically, but geared towards my personal weaknesses that need to be worked on so ALL my relationships can grow and prosper. I feel that everyone has something that could be worked on, which improves us as an individual, which then improves our relationships. By “the guy” I was dating telling me what he did made me grow as a person although it was hard to hear. I thank him for telling me and because of what he said will help me to become a better person. Is there anything that you could work on as well?