Relationship Meltdown

Have you ever hit that relationship drowning stage that you feel you and your relationship are drowning and there’s no safety net to save you? I mean that point to where you both get on each other’s nerves, there’s tension, you feel you can’t communicate because it always turns into an argument, blaming each other is involved, there’s no understanding, there’s no love it seems, and there’s no intimacy (not even as much as a hug). And your scared to verbalize your feelings of LOVE for fear of rejection because your relationship is in a sensitive place that even the slightest rejection of a hug or touch makes you feel mad all over again because you feel that was an attempt to reconcile….so you just don’t do anything to stay in that “safe” emotional place. However, deep down you want to hug and kiss your partner and scream from the bottom of your lungs “I LOVE YOU, LET’S FORGET ALL THIS PETTY STUFF, AND LET’S JUST NOT ARGUE ANYMORE!” But you don’t and you wait until you can try to organize your emotional chaos because your also harboring frustration from past arguments or past resentments. Your just impatiently waiting for the storm to pass over but every second, minute, hour, days, weeks, months or however long you are in that emotional storm seems like things will never change. BUT under all the haze and clouds you KNOW that you deeply love each other but it’s just hard to see it and feel it at these points. I know that prayer and faith helps a lot with me during these times in the relationship. Also, at the end of the day knowing that my boyfriend loves me and we are still here and in this together helps me to know this storm will pass. It’s just part of the relationship game. We all go through ups and down but once you get through the tough times and become happy again then your relationship will grow stronger and will be better equipped to handle adversity.