It’s no secret that I date. I
went on a date with an established guy this past week. He treated me like a
lady. He pulled out my chair, ordered for me; you know….the chivalry was in
full force. I told him upfront what I want and don’t want and he respected my
boundaries and my intentions. He told me that there are women out there that
you don’t respect because they don’t carry themselves in a certain way and
there are women out there that you do because they carry themselves in a
respectful way. He told me that there are just some women you treat better than
others and you’re one of them. It made me think of how people, in general, pick
up on our attitudes towards ourselves and others, and make judgments…positive
or negative. Then my mind went on a tangent: What do people judge about me and
my FB statuses? What do people judge about me when I talk? The way I dress? Etc…
The fact of the matter is, you’re
always going to be judged and treated as such. There are always going to be
people who are not going to like you, who are envious, who are jealous, and
judge you as such. Then, there’s the other end where people are rooting for
you, supporting you, and on your team. As you can read, even this blog, went
off on a tangent.
Back to my date. When dating,
women we have so much power. We can choose to demand respect, and from that
point to stay or leave. But my other point is men can easily pick-up on traits
based on our actions/words. If you want to be respected by your date/boyfriend/partner
then you have to expect it, demand it, and set boundaries. IF your
date/boyfriend/partner does not want to give it, then it’s your choice to stay
or leave.
